How To Feel Comfortable In A Bathing Suit (& Where To Buy!)

Breaking news: I’m not a size 0. 

Of course, if you’ve ever seen a picture of me, you’re probably like, “well, duh.” I’m usually a size 12 or 14 at most stores, and I go from medium to XL depending on sizing. It sounds silly to say I’ve struggled with this when the average American woman is a size 14, so I’m in good company, but I’ve tried pretty much every weight loss scheme. When I was a teenager, I saw a therapist because my relationship with food was disordered, and I coped in some unhealthy ways.

But today, when I look in the mirror, and I’m fine. I can step on a scale without crying, and if I need the XL, I’m grabbing the XL. Additionally, I still have a ton of privilege when it comes to size because I can go into most “straight-sized” stores and buy things without a problem, so I don’t have to worry about the plus-sized section is seriously lacking. Even though I’m mostly at peace with my body, I hate swimsuit season with a passion. Last year was the first time that I said “screw it” and uploaded a picture of myself in a bikini.

here’s to a day spent w/ beautiful friends & loving myself, imperfections and all. ✨

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No one wants to have one bathing suit, especially in Florida, so I knew I’d have to buy something to get through spring and summer! Last year, I learned a not-so-secret trick that I now live by. Shop online, and you won’t have to deal with harsh fitting room lighting. It’s magic. Here’s the depressing thing: I ordered nine suits from Amazon and six went back. It’s not exactly a stellar success rate, but they were all affordable and returns are so easy.

THE WINNING SWIMSUITS

LEFT:  Tempt Me Women One Piece Vintage Floral, three super cute patterns!

RIGHT: COCOSHIP Retro One Piece Backless (comes in 21 colors!) 

These two swimsuits have won my heart completely! They’re perfect for spring and fun without being too revealing. I like to find a balance between comfort + still looking great, and the fact that these swimsuits are SO flattering and don’t break the bank is a huge plus for me.

I also found the cutest “Do Not Disturb” hat on Amazon! I’m linking it below. 

Click here for the hat! 

I hope that my swimsuit post was helpful for you! I LOVE helping people find the best clothing for their shape, so if you have any questions or want any recommendations not listed, just leave me a note in the comments! xoxo