My First Trimester Recap

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In case you missed it, I’m pregnant! We’re thrilled to expand our family, and I’m so grateful I’ve had great scans so far. I typically recap my first trimester on the blog (see here) and wanted to do the same this time. I’m currently 16 weeks pregnant, and it’s taken me weeks to share this post because I’m still dealing with intense nausea and fatigue. I’m eagerly chasing that second-trimester glow I keep hearing about, but it’s evaded me. Let’s get into how I found out, my symptoms, and deciding when to share publicly.

First Trimester Recap: Finding Out

The day after Christmas, I decided to take a pregnancy test. I was 10 days past ovulation for those familiar with trying-to-conceive lingo, so it was still very early. Still, I had a gut feeling and wanted to test. I saw the faintest line and wasn’t sure if I was imagining it, so I ran to Target for a digital test. Sure enough, I saw “Pregnant” flash on the tiny screen and knew it was real.

I left the test on the bathroom counter and yelled to Vagner that I needed to show him something in the bathroom ASAP. I think he knew from the tone of my voice that it was going to be a positive test!

Sharing The News

After telling him, I texted a couple of friends who I knew I’d rely on if I experienced a chemical pregnancy or early loss. I was extremely early — only 3 weeks and 2 days pregnant — but I know myself well enough to know that I’d want ample support if I had another miscarriage. That night, I went to my parents’ house, where they were discussing dinner reservations for the entire family. I told them to ensure they got a table for 9 (only 8 of us were there). It took a second, but they were all so excited for us once it clicked.

From there, I shared the news as it felt right. I started to tell more friends after my first ultrasound at 7 weeks and told all my family and close friends by 12 weeks. I announced on social media at 14 weeks pregnant. By then, it felt like I’d been pregnant for an eternity! The perils of finding out early.

I’ve shared before that I don’t believe we should ever shame someone for announcing a pregnancy “too soon.” As someone who lost a pregnancy past the traditional “safe” mark, there’s always the potential for something to go terribly wrong, and I won’t ever fault anyone for sharing their pregnancy when they please — whether that’s right after a positive test or never sharing at all.

An Early Scare

CW: discussions of blood/miscarriage

When I was 5 weeks pregnant, I went to the bathroom and saw bright red blood. I immediately panicked and became convinced that I was losing the pregnancy. I called my doctor’s office, and they recommended a trip to the emergency room. So we left Nora with my parents and headed to the hospital. In retrospect, I don’t think I would go to the ER again — we were there for hours and left with a hefty bill — but it was good for my peace of mind at the time.

They performed an ultrasound and tested my hCG levels — thankfully, everything looked good. Still, they diagnosed me with “threatened miscarriage” because there was the potential for the bleeding to get worse and end in a loss. I didn’t realize how common spotting in pregnancy is, but I now know that it can be normal. I feel so lucky that it ended up being nothing in my case, and I got to see the baby’s heartbeat for the first time two weeks later.

My Symptoms So Far

Now for the fun part: it’s my time to complain! Kidding. Sort of. In all seriousness, this pregnancy has taken a toll on me that the other two didn’t. I’m still regularly getting sick and struggling to make it through an entire workday at 16 weeks pregnant. It’s not as debilitating as during the worst of the first trimester, but it’s not much fun. I am so grateful for this pregnancy, but I allow myself to miss life before I was pregnant. I know it’s all temporary, but it’s still tricky. Here are my most prominent symptoms in the last few months:

  • Nausea/vomiting
  • Fatigue
  • Smell aversion (perfumes and strong scents make me sick)
  • Touch aversion (I can barely stand to be touched by anyone)
  • Phone scrolling making me nauseous

Some of these have improved over the last few weeks, but I’m still far from feeling like myself. Still, I’m embracing the journey, as corny as it sounds. I know it’ll all be worth it in the end, making the hard days more bearable. Thanks for reading my first trimester recap! I can’t wait to keep y’all posted as my pregnancy progresses.

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